It's not you, it's me
However, I don't write this blog to give relationship advice (although I will occasionally talk about relationships within your stories). I do want to address something that I've heard a lot about recently: Ignorance. In Biology, my teacher constantly is reminding us to "admit to our own ignorance as humans". And while I personally don't like admitting that I'm ignorant, I realized that my teacher has made a major point that doesn't just relate to discovering new species, but to writing.
As we write, we often make mistakes. I'm not talking about typos, but the obvious grammar mistakes that seem to escape Microsoft Word's watchful eye and can be found on nearly every page. No matter how many times you read your story, you may miss a crucial plot hole or some sort of element that takes away from the story and makes is confusing. As writers, we know our stories so well that we piece together the plot within our minds, even if our writing doesn't tell the entire story.
So why talk about "It's not you, it's me"? Well, basically, that common phrase is very helpful to think of while you're receiving criticism on your writing. Often, you'll have someone read your story, and they'll tell you that it's great... except for pages 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5 have flaws (and your story is only 5 pages). It happens, and sometimes, you just have to think of that overused phrase and remind yourself that it's true. It's ourselves that are holding our writing back, not our over-criticizing family and friends. And while sometimes it can be that the criticizer is being too harsh, often we need to take a step back and realize that "it's not you, it's my writing and me".
Have you ever realized that you've had a major plot hole or grammatical error and been in denial? Tell me your thoughts in the comments below!
My Answer: Definitely. I hate admitting that my writing is bad or messed up, even if it is :)